Boys expectations when dating
Are you giving men points for fancy, surface-y, bullshit-y actions and taking points away for insignificant acts?
Could it be possible that you mistake men’s intentions or misunderstand some of their actions?
” I can tell you with 99% certainty that, no, they are not. But when I was dating I definitely kept some kind of tally in my brain. Most of us tend to do this…especially when it comes to making decisions about men.
Is it left-over from a list you devised in college, or even high school?The belief in modern dating is that relationships should happen naturally.Two people meet, and if they are “right” for each other, like magic, everything will fall into place.Do you know that in the world of sexual attraction?When men say their tactics — that’s what they are — didn’t ‘work’ that means their little attempt at solving women like some alien puzzle didn’t provide the sex or affection that they desired in a Imagine if your guy friends only hung out with you and pretended to be nice to you all the time so they could borrow money from you.
You make sure not to come on too strong, let things just happen, and avoid talking about or placing any expectations on the relationship. Successful relationships, at any level, require more communication then the magic “naturally” implies, because the only product of letting a relationship happen “naturally” is ambiguity, disappointment, and heartbreak.