From dating to engagement
What other counseling options are available if I’m not engaged yet, but am currently in a relationship?Redeemer Counseling Services provides a wide variety of counseling services including individual, relationship and premarital counseling.But these suggested time frames can't possibly apply to everyone.
Premarital Seminar The Premarital Seminar is a one-day, six-hour course that discusses the meaning and purpose of marriage, the qualities necessary to have a healthy marriage, the true nature of love and how to effectively express it, communication and conflict resolution, role relationships, and sexuality in marriage. Relationship counseling Redeemer Counseling Services provides counseling for couples in a private setting with a professional Christian counselor. Considering the size of our church and the number of pastors on staff, please note that the Redeemer pastor you initially request may already be at capacity and unable to officiate your wedding.
The subjective judgment of knowing someone well, then, needn't correlate with time. Your wedding might be magical, but becoming married isn't a magical experience that will instantly transform an unstable, unhealthy relationship into a stable, healthy one. One problem that can detour a marriage that seems to be headed in the right direction is the introduction of unexpected new knowledge about a partner.
Instead of focusing on how long you've been dating, consider these other ways to evaluate whether you're both ready for marriage. One reason some couples experience sharp declines in satisfaction during the first two years of marriage (Huston et al., 2001) may be because they entered into their marriages as a way to a relationship, leading to disillusionment and disappointment. Do you know, for example, how your partner thinks about and values money, or how he or she would approach being a parent?
Further, some couples meet as strangers, while others have been friends for a long time prior to introducing any romantic element.
Adding some clarity, the perception of knowing a partner "very well" at the time of marriage reduced the likelihood of divorce by 50 percent at any given time point as well.
Do you expect that things will be different in marriage?