Post divorce dating kids
But, we humans are instinctively drawn to partnering up.So chances are very good that sooner or later you (along with nearly every other divorced parent) will be dipping your toe into the waters of dating after divorce.It is also critical that you remain in the role of parent and not turn into your child's best friend where you each gush about your new girl or boyfriend. Every child will react in his or her own way to a parent's dating after the divorce.And as has been stated many times on this site, knowing your child will always help you better understand what may be going on for him/her.What if my children don't like the person I am dating? On one hand, it is important for parents to listen to concerns that their children raise about new partners.Dating after divorce requires some caution on the part of adults. Gary Neuman, author of Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way offers a list of things for parents to pay attention to.
If you need a reminder about what to expect at each developmental stage have a look here When talking with young children (infants and toddlers) describe the person you are seeing as a friend. I'll be back soon."With preschoolers (ages 3-5) still describe the person you will be going out with as as friend. You will likely want to have a more in-depth conversation about dating.
With teens (15-20) it is important to be honest about your actions. It's been long enough after the divorce that I am ready to meet some new people.
I'm wondering how you feel about that." Since your teens are also likely dating, it is important to talk with them about how it may be awkward to have a parent dating at the same time. How will my children be affected by my decision to date?
Should I wait until my children are grown before dating?
This is obviously a very personal decision with no one right answer.
Obviously the time needed to heal is different for everyone.